Never leave the bed. I think you should work back towards that. If your wife does not want to sleep with you, she can pick a different spot. You need your strength and sleep to work on saving your marriage.
It has been asked if you know your wife's love languages.
Do you?
Does she know yours?
I ask this because you stated that you blocked yourself.
She has had a very tough life. Very tough.
Have you read any guy books ? Like Hold on to your nuts ?
When times were good in your mind. What did she mention?
What did you feel ?
No matter what. Always offer a safe haven. With respect and boundaries. Do not be afraid to call out bad behavior. Do not be afraid to get up and walk away when you feel uncomfortable. But always be respectful.
You mentioned that a 180 would be intimate.
But what is intimate to you?
What is intimate to your wife ?
You state your subconsciously angry at her?
That is a paradox.
Why?
You have hinted at lack of respect when being alone.
Does your wife know that you want to spend that time together alone?
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!
