Gineen, it really gets me when he tries to write himself up to be something he isn't. I don't know if he will ever win S19 back. S16 is sort of the class clown so he just jokes a lot when he is around his dad but he doesn't feel much of a connection. The girls are in a half love/half hate relationship with him. It makes me sad for my kids but I know this is his situation to resolve.
I haven't had any contact since before the divorce with the OW. I don't see her or ex playing a big part in their lives once their mandatory visits are done at 18. Sad but true.
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Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory