Kaffe thanks for the feedback. I didn't mean to push it but it was a text conversation so it hard to know really what a person is saying with no tone or body language to go with the words and I told that to her when I asked the question. She understood as far as I can tell.
I think I'm still somewhat competing with OM as I did the cell phone record check (I know) and there is a number that I know that still pops up but nothing like it use to and action on the cell phone as calmed way down.
I did tell her about the book "working on your marriage without talking about it" as she asked me about any books I have read and said she would get a copy(she has a nook).
She ran a half marathon yesterday and sent me a pic from a hike she went on. That is the first time in a long time she has done that. I was so surprised. She told me the run was hard because it was into the wind and I chatted with her briefly and let her talk to our S.
I don't know but things seem to get a little better each day. We still have not talk like she said once I got back from my trip but we will I figure. We will see what next week brings.
Any other advice DBer's? I know your out there somewhere.
Me:29 W:28 S:2 M: 5 years Bomb: 7-26-11 Separated: 8-20-11 EA w/ multiple OMs W filed 1/2012