"""He is the KING of not talking about anything. For our whole marriage I have pretty much gotten just the surface of him. He just doesn't share his deepest thoughts... ever! For the most part he has always just agreed with what I say.""
So much of what your wrote matches my H completely. Read No More Mr. Guy. Check out the web site. Your H has many deep psychological issues. Why did he let you treat him badly for years and not tell you he was hurting, and just walk out?? He needs to figure this out.
You need to continue on your path. I can completely relate to your anger issues. many things can help with that. IC with a good & experienced therapist, medication, 12 step programs, reading books like "Stop walking on eggshells", meditating, start trying different things and see which work for you.
As you know you can not make him see the light but you can love yourself more. Work on that.
Three kids, must be busy!! Be kind and gentle to yourself, what you are going through is not easy.
Why not go to dinner with him?? I think its a chance to show your changes.
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13
