Hey GM maybe the takeaway there is when you're feeling such intense emotion wait a while and see how you feel then.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
I agree with adinva, sounds to me that you may not be quite ready to call it quits after all. I think the emotions are so raw between the two of you right now that it may be hard to make any sound decisions at the moment. Your patience will be your saving grace... (I need to take my own advice, believe me.)
Me: 32 H: 32 M 9 yrs #1 D7 #2 S5 #3 D2 Bomb 8/12/11 H moved out 8/14/11 PA started w/H & OW in 1/12 - found out 3/24/12 Got my own place 8/25/12 H & OW move in together 9/15/12 Still married.
Its different in a way. I know everybody here, including myself, thinks I am being impatient. I am. I honestly try to look at this objectively and give it time. Nevertheless, its gets so very taxing when I think about waiting and what I'm waiting on. Do I even like this person right now? Right now, no, yet there is still something there that draws me to her.I think I fell into the "let me fix this" trap.
Ray - no matter how long our sitches have lasted we are all driven crazy by our confusion over what standing for M actually is. All these thousands of posts between us all and all of us are still dumbfounded...but we are all moving to peace step by step together, while our WAS's stumble around like zombies. I don't know the answer Ray...but sometimes we just have to let it ride with the will of the universe.
Oh well, what else would I be doing? I mean except for dating super models, solving decades-old cold cases, and curing cancer.
Such a total mess when it comes to my sitch this week. "That's it I'm done with this crazy Bytch"; just to be followed a few days later by "geesh, I sure do miss her still." Only saving grace - she has not seen my bad attitude this week. Sure got a boat-load of hers though.
Ray - I only know of your W through your posts and so forth however I keep thinking she's not done with you or her sitch. I don't want to across as some DB seer, but it really does strike me that way.
I don't know the answer Ray...but sometimes we just have to let it ride with the will of the universe.
Indeed. I think that is where I am now. Since this past Monday my feelings have evened out a bit. Not angry, not sad, just kinda of here? I still love her and I don't think I can replace her yet. Despite all her (and my) issues, there is still something profound between the two of us that is beyond explanation.
I find it curious; if I had come across another member posting what I have on my sitch I would have yanked - out the 2x4's and gone medieval. Thanks for your patience with me - all of you.
Me: 44 Bomb: 11/27/11 Divorced:6/12 Life goes on: 6/13
