She doesn't even work and yet she's calling all the shots about where you live and work? You don't even know that you'll get a job back in the old home town, but she has you thinking it's best for the kids. The thing is, she's thinking what's best for her right now. A woman who is having an A, hardly thinks about what's best for ANYONE, except herself. It's the nature of the beast.
You said you could not afford two households. Then don't agree to find another place to stay, and tell her that you will not finance her expenses for one. It just doesn't work for you. (How long has it been she's heard the word "no" from you?) Now, that is doing what's best for the kids.....not swapping out, playing babysitter every two weeks.
Let me tell you something about a wife who is having an A and wants out of the M. She has lost respect for her H. She's so done with him and the M. Nothing you do will change her feelings. Read it again.
I say that so you will base your decisions on what is the right thing to do for you and your children.....and not on how she'll feel about it. All she's going to feel is anger. No matter if you tuck your tail and follow her and the kids to the home town, it will not change her feelings.
A WAW who is in an A, has to find all the fault in her LBH so that it justifies her having an A and busting up her family.
Your family needs a leader. You need to be that leader, not your W. She does not have the family's best interest at heart.
Find your pants and start wearing them.
Sorry......something's come up and I have to run. I'll get back.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
