Hi IB. Why the anger? We can easily see that the car payment is ridiculous for an 18 year old to handle. But that is what it is, right? He'll learn and it won't be life threatening. Perhaps painful though.
Why the anger? This is a good thing for your son. He needs to see, feel, experience with his father.
Remember how hard it has been for you to distance yourself from his father. Remember that you don't have the same committment to his father that he has. Remember, your son has to learn his own way and his own relationship with his father.
It's important that he does, and he needs to see the good, bad, and ugly. All of it.
Your son will learn at some point what is right for him and what is not. When that happens is anyone's guess. But it will happen.
You need to be there for him WHEN he is ready. Until then, deal with your anger in the matter.
I don't think this is something that can't be fixed later. Really. It's not a bad thing that he has that burden from his dad
Control the things you can control. Let the rest go quickly. AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
