Hi BK just read your sitch and can really relate to what you are going through. I'm still learning, so I won't give you any bad advice, but what I would say is that a lot of the people on here do give really good advice and do really care.
I'm sorry to hear about your cat :-( & hope you find him.

Take care of yourself & good luck with C

Bill

Me 34 W 32
D 9 S 6
M: 9 years
T: 12
Bomb: 02/11/12
EA/PA: 12/17/11 - ongoing
Moved out: Oct 2012
Joint Filed for D: 2/11/13

Don't just GAL, find yourself and be happy