Gosh! Wendy, the sooner you detach the better, but you are handling things very well, from what I can read. We all have those "little discussions" with our H's which lead nowhere. Just have to take it one day at a time. Tomorrow, you will do better. I would say, plan to get as high an alimony as you can get. Of course, half his pension is yours too, I assume. So, I don't think you'll have too many concerns about money (although, I don't pretend to know about your financial affairs, but if this is how it is, then I think you should be okay). If the house sells (which I assume you will get half of the profit), then you can always rent, until you know where you want to set down roots. And, it is a good idea to store away precious items where they can't be damaged. His wanting to be away while you have to handle the cr@ppy job of tenting the house for termites is ridiculous. But, as a military wife, that's what he expected when he was away. Everything perfect when he got home.
I agree that you should wait for the house to be empty before tenting, and darn it, he should be there throughout the process of selling. My H and I are intending to sell our house as well, but I've decided that until he is here on a longer basis, there is no point in me rushing around, keeping the house and huge garden perfect for potential buyers. Not going to happen! I don't care if the house gets sold, for one thing, and I have better things to do with my time, for another. He's hardly here, so it's not as if I'm taking care of him. It's quite convenient, really.
I'm off to bed, so g'night y'all.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
