Rollercoaster Ride...Holding on for dear life!

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RRMD -

You have been to my thread, so you know about my anger issues by now...

Letting go of your anger will do so much good for your piece of mind. Holding all of that in, doesn't hurt H in anyway- it only hurts yourself.

Yep...

if your anger continues to build, it could ruin any chances of reconciliation- if that's still what you want.)

Yep...

If you *do* want the M, then you've got to do the hard work to resolve your anger.

Hope I'm not coming off to harsh.... I just don't want to see your anger get the better of you

Yes again!

Thanks Purg - I could have not said any of this any better.

As for any recommended reading materials, I have read a couple of Patricia Evan's books on Verbal Abuse. They are great at identifying specific anger-driven behaviors and some of the underlying issues for them. But let me warn you - she believes that only verbally abusive men can reform. Yes, you heard that right. She believes that women cannot reform and she mentions that in a couple of her books. But don't let that deter you, of course it's nonsense - anyone can change.
But there is useful (and very painful) info there and that is why I recommend her (plus I want more and more women to prove her wrong ;-)

Other books waiting for me:
- The Dance with Anger (I started it today)
- The Anger Trap
- Love Without Hurt
- The Emotionally Abusive Relationship

Hope this helps!