I did read Passionate Marriage. I think it did me more harm than good because it got my hopes up for how good things could be. I started down the road of doing the exercises and reading parts of it to W and she didn't want any part of it.
I'll read your MLC or Passive Aggressive Narcissism post.
Accuray
Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015