the code system is an incredible way to communicate with S13. My heart breaks for S13 and for the rest of your family to have to go through it. I grew up with a violent and abusive alcoholic and I know too well the effects of the illness on a child. Unlike S13, I didn't have someone help me cope with it. It's actually the main reason why I chose to come to this country after high school, I wanted to get as far away from home as possible.
As Labug said, mixing drugs and alcohol is incredibly dangerous. I think you mentioned a few posts ago that your W decided to go off her meds, so I hope she isn't mixing now.
You have a wonderful heart, Rick. Your sitch makes it really hard to DB, yet you've been holding on and going strong for a year. You're doing all the right things...detaching, GALing, and most importantly taking care of your kids and yourself.
