Yeah, I've been really busy at work. Haven't had as much time to post.
It is a hard road. But it can be life changing for the better. I've just tried to continue being calm, patient, and up-beat. Trying not to chase, or talk about the relationship.
Thanks for reading my posts. I'm sorry to hear about her saying she wants a divorce. Have you read DR? I think that's a better book than the first one--more up to date, and has more stuff in it for those who are separated.
On the bright side, saying you want a d, is a whole lot different than going down and filing for a d? So don't give up hope. What sort of techniques have you been trying?
I find that kids are a big help, because they do provide an unseverable link between the two of you--that's why d is so friggin' stupid (spare physical or mental abuse, and drugs, alcohol, etc.) becaus you really can't get away from the other person, because you have kids togther.
OK, enough soap-boxing for one Friday afternoon.
So funny--wife just called me as I wrote this post. It was a really good conversation. So much of this stuff is "energy and feeling" almost outside of words. Her energy seemed good, and I could hear respect and warmth in her voice, if not love--
Just remember Anger is the enemy, Love is the only answer.
"Things are never bad; it's the way you think about them." -Epictetus
