OZ,
I'm sorry for your loss. Death - no matter if you are close to that person or not - is never easy.

Your w said she didn't need you to call... so I think that you should respect her wishes and not call today.

As for the card to her family - I think that's ok.

I know it hurts that she is being so distant and cold. Please realize that HER actions are NOT ABOUT YOU.

She is doing what she needs to.. to cope with things.

And that excludes you in this moment in time.

You have no control over it.. so don't try to change it.

Just accept her for where she is.. and should she decide to change her mind.. address your next steps then.

and if not... well.. as you said... keep on keeping on.

(((( ))))

M(f): 40
D'ed: 8/12

Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.

Love at all costs because you are loved well.