I would say the fact that your H mentioned missing ALL OF HIS STUFF is some progress, don't you think? Maybe he's just waiting for these coaching sessions to know what his next step should be. Sounds like he doesn't have all the answers either...
Me: 32 H: 32 M 9 yrs #1 D7 #2 S5 #3 D2 Bomb 8/12/11 H moved out 8/14/11 PA started w/H & OW in 1/12 - found out 3/24/12 Got my own place 8/25/12 H & OW move in together 9/15/12 Still married.