Husband left me...feel hopeless

[Dory]

A huge part of me really thinks that this is his issue...that he needs to find himself. I'm just having a hard time having him find himself without me. He doesn't share anything with me about his progress. I only know he's taking steps to see a psychiatrist because I just paid our cell phone bill and saw a call was made to one. It is good that he's taking these steps but I also know he not really talking to anyone about his steps. I just don't understand how a person could do this and go through it alone.

Hi Stephanie,

I just wanted to chime in here. From what you've described so far about your H, it really sounds to me that he could be clinically depressed. Do you think this could be a possibility? If this is the case, you need to understand that it is very common for depressives to withdraw into themselves so please do not take it personally. It isn't something that he's doing intentionally, it's really just a by-product of the internal hell that depression creates: there's just so much chaos going on in his head that it eventually becomes impossible to focus on anybody or anything external until the depression either subsides or adequate treatment is sought. In the depressive mind, everything is hopeless. It's a good thing that your H is seeking psychiatric help. Depression or something else, the psychiatrist will figure out what's going on with your H and he will get the help he needs. I see this a a big positive that your H is willing to accept that things aren't right & he's getting the help needed.

I'm so sorry you've found yourself here. The first few weeks and months are by far the hardest and most painful but I promise you it does get better. One thing I've learned about myself, and you will too, is that you're far stronger than you ever thought possible.

Now, what are you doing for you? How are you taking care of you?