Wow J that is so great that you can be a safe place for him to say something, even something you might not like. So you can really know him and he can really know you. I wish I'd had that in my M and hope to get it one day.

Something I was told about negotiating conflict, which is what you're doing when your needs bump up against his, is to try to express what your need is instead of telling him what to do. Rather than trying to cramp his fun, you're looking for a way to balance his fun with your needs and also with his responsibilities as a parent.

If you can respect his need for socializing and drinking and he can work his responsibilities into the schedule maybe he'll feel less controlled and more in control of his values and choices.

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.