Believe me, I have been enjoying the good times. It's nice to be able to share a smile and have no hidden meanings for either one of us. That stuff does help through the "worse" times.
I find myself meeting those small goals only after I go back and reflect on our interactions. Really little things, like her picking up toys in my room, plating and bringing me dinner, etc.
I catch myself still complaining in my head about how things have been going, but then realize that I'm upset because it isn't more than what it is. I follow that by giving myself a 2x4 for being ungrateful. You make a good point, though... our day-to-day and week-to-week interactions have significantly improved. It's a great benchmark that I keep forgetting about.
I spent my birthday focusing on myself, with new clothes, and allowing the schedule of my day to unfold and do things as I saw fit. I haven't had a day like that in -what, months, years? It felt nice, and W certainly seemed to take note, particularly with the new outfits. What was important was how good I felt about myself.
Now I'm wondering if I've been suppressing some desire to have new stylish clothes all the time! lol
Me: 31 W: 28 M: almost 6 T: 10.5 S2 Bomb#1: 05/11 Bomb#2: 11/11 S'd: 11/28/11 Moved back in: 12/28/11 MC: 06/28/12