Six weeks of separation and counting

[mishka422]

DON'T SNOOP! It will hurt you immensely.

One thing I think you need to take from you snooping is that he is fully entrenched in his affair and has zero intentions, at this time, to come home and work on your M.

Take that for what it's worth, loose his darned password, and move forward.

I hope you are spending your time in Germany having fun and drinking that awesome beer! I've never had better beer than I had there.

Listen to what Accuray said, he's completely right. Your email to him was pursuing. Just because you expected to know that they arrived at their destination safely, he doesn't have the same concern. Not contacting him to let him know would have actually been coming from a place of strength. Being self-sufficient. Unless he specifically asks you to let him know you and S18 arrived safely, don't bother. He figures he'll hear from authorities if something happens. Trust me......most men's way of thinking runs along those lines.

Have you been journaling on the questions I gave you? Those were straight out of my C's playbook. They helped me refocus what I wanted and what I felt I needed for myself.

Now you see that having 'family time' with him is hurting you more than it's helping. Maybe you need to allow him to have time with his son's without you being present. Example - Next hockey game have him pick up both sons or meet them for pizza beforehand. You can go to the game and not sit with him. You need the distance just as much as your sons need the contact.