Let me say again tread carefully. I know you trust your W and all that, but one thing you have NO control over is the court system. If it gets that far.
I'm a L and if I had a client who's husband voluntarily went to an Abuse Intervention, you bet I'm exploring that. Why? 2 reasons - for tactical reasons and for safety concerns. (I don't do family law thankfully)
Also, if there would ever be a GAL (Guardian Ad Litem)for the kids involved - they certain have a huge input. So it might not even be up to your wife to have ANY say. I did some GAL training and they try to leave no stone unturned and often their recommendations can go against what the parents want or are willing to deal with.
Also, if a 3rd party who not you or your W makes a complaint (outside of a court) then the would have to investigate.
the positive that could come out if it is that you get screened and told this program isn't for you.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
