Yeah, that's nice. But that is not Autumn's h. I see little chance of this guy being real unless the alcohol is dealt with. Seems he can't drink without acting like a douche toward her.
Very true, my H says some very mean and hateful things to me when drunk. His personality changes and he gets cocky. Most people outside of our m see him as a fun "party guy" but to me he gets critical and condescending.
It wasn't always this way. His drinking has been getting progressively worse. Went from beer, to a lot of beer, to hard liquor, very strong drinks with little mixers, shots daily.
So while I haven't said it here, yes I do believe he is an alcoholic.
I am seeking out al anon meetings. I have gone before but hit or miss, I was in denial but no more. I am going to do this for me because while living under the same roof I need the additional support.
25 you asked about my local support, and unfortunately I really don't have any. My family all lives in NJ and I am in PA. H's family is all here and has been my support in other things, but obviously can't be in this. My parents are both about an hour and a half in different directions from me. I do have one brother who lives in PA but he is 26 and I wouldn't think to lean on him for any of this. He is just going back to school for his PhD and doesn't need to worry about his sister.
I have some very good girlfriends that I think I can call on and gain support from, because this is going to be a long road.
I have an appt with a D atty on Tuesday morning to gather information and continue to plan. I am not telling him any of this, as it would set him off.
Last night when he got home he kissed me, and I asked him to please stop that as it made me uncomfortable. He said he understood.
He is trying to just brush this under as if nothing happened and expects me to do the same. Obviously I won't be doing that.
This weekend I really intend to GAL and enjoy the weekend. I have some gardening to do, and may go out with some girlfriends, still deciding.
