Of course, completely human. Don't forget, no one here says this is easy -- it's super hard!
Remember, when you stop pursuing, H will likely mount a "no holds barred" campaign to get you to pursue again. When you pull back he won't like it. You need to stand firm until he is recommitted to the marriage. Until that time, he's on his own with his issues and problems.
(Cadet and I are saying the same thing I think)
Accuray
Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015