hi everyone! newbie here....could this be a MLC?

[Accuray]

In my opinion you can listen and validate but you should apply a "casual friend standard". i.e. if this was someone you work with who you kind of know but not that well, what would you do? You'd probably lend a sympathetic ear, but you wouldn't get too involved, nor would you say anything to imply that you're personally invested.

and made it clear that i love him still and accept him for who he is.

I would leave that out. Paraphrased you are saying "look at me! I'm right here! I'm just exactly what you need!"

He needs to realize that on his own, you can't tell him or convince him with words.

The better message would be "I'm sorry you're going through this, I hope you work it out."

Don't offer advice, don't give him any suggestions. Listen, validate, and that's it. It's very tempting to try to be helpful and offer your thoughts and advice -- don't.

Accuray