MC says to call it quits

[Accuray]

Thanks Oldtimer! Tell me more about my lack of backbone.

(1) This made me laugh because W hates it when I touch her hair, but point taken. Also I have given her plenty of small gifts that tend to make her feel worse because she doesn't do that type of thing for me. The gifts didn't seem to be doing anything but to demonstrate pursuing, so I've knocked it off. I would like to bring her a gift, I enjoy doing it, but it seems counter productive.

(2) With this one, I really like how you've worded it. We've already had that discussion. She said "how would you like me to respond?" I told her, "You can say yes, you can say no, or you can offer a counter-proposal. If you say no, I will tend to feel rejected and that feels badly. If at that point you kiss me, hug me, or otherwise demonstrate a loving gesture it will help." -- she heard that, but she doesn't do it.

Oldtimer, did you read "The Solo Partner" and what did you think of it? Do you think my current strategy of applying distance is misguided? What would you advise?

Accuray