just ate dinner with H, during which he opened up a lot about how he'd been feeling lately. he talked about how he's been feeling empty for as long as he can remember and that he feels that no one accepts him for who he really is. he apologized for hurting me these past few months, and says that he wishes he could be a good husband to me, but that he just doesn't have it in him right now. he also said that he felt we had gotten married too fast, and that we should have talked a lot more about our expectations beforehand. he started to also question his faith in God, saying that he used to pray a lot, and has been feeling disillusioned since his mom passed away.
i tried validating everything he said, and made it clear that i love him still and accept him for who he is. however, i didn't bring up the R or ask where we stood regarding the D. i admit i was a bit discouraged when he made it clear he hadn't changed his mind about the D(even saying, "if i was a good husband to you, would i be divorcing you?") but tried my best not to show it.
h seems to be going through some kind of spiritual crisis of some sort. i'm continuing to try & detach, but i also want to be there for h if he wants to talk and open up. would this be pursuing if I make myself available to him if he wants to talk? is there anything i can do or say to help him with this (feeling empty, wanting peace)? or does this fall into the category of stuff he needs to figure out on his own? any thoughts?
