It will be interesting when I return home. One painful part of this is that I worked so hard to get the marriage back on track and now I feel like I'm undoing that work that was so hard won.
Her explanation for her infidelity was that I was withdrawn and she didn't feel connected. I took that to heart and made sure to be connected. When she didn't step up to meet me, I was disappointed.
I do realize that although she *said* those were the reasons for her infidelity, it's equally if not more likely that she just got an opportunity she chose to pursue and everything else is just noise.
Reading "The Solo Partner" underscored for me that our prior marriage was in fact quite good, we didn't have the animosity and chronic problems that seem to plague many relationships. If the marriages I read about in the solo partner are an "8" in terms of bad, we were probably a 4 at our worst.
I hate to tear down what I've rebuilt, but I do see that it wasn't a foundation that was going to last.
Accuray
Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
