DB'ing is sooooo hard (part 5)

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I finding out it is very necessary to find the sources of this anger (NHMom you there?) and recognize them for what they are. It's the hardest thing to do because if you're like me you get all caught up in how "right" you are, how you know what divine principles are and your S is not living them, how they are hurting the kids and should be judged and executed for this.

Be very careful about knowing the source of your anger. I'm not preaching here because I'm doing this today - asking myself this. It is NOT EASY.

How much of your hurt is truly all about your own feelings, your own gratification? I'm not saying this doesn't sukk totally. I'm saying that if you look at it, it's often because we are not getting what we want or expect.

Thanks of thinking of me when talking about anger

I recognize that I have a lot of anger and frustration in me, and I know how important it is to get to the bottom of it. I'm still working on figuring that that. I think it is a mix of things.

Btw, you're a very awesome person! The support you have to offer while going through something immense yourself is invaluable.

I hope you and your son's are doing well! They are so very lucky to have you as their dad, you know that, right?

Thanks so much NH. Pretty much everyone on this board are superhuman people...a lot to admire.

Rick89 & NHMom - anger seems to be the hot topic of the day. I would certainly fit in the category of the ones that really need to take a good look at my own anger and what purpose it serves me, so I can get rid of it... I have been in a very dark place lately and I am trying to get out of it.

It's good to see that I am not alone, or going crazy.
I empathize tremendously with you both!
And we should at least pat ourselves in the back that we are trying to conquer our demons. We'll get there! :-)