My personal affairs are shaking out pretty nicely. I'm only 2 weeks in to a new job. Making a nice impression as a great new hire. I find the work fulfilling and rewarding. I'm not as worried about what she will do or won't do anymore. This is a very large company and with my background and drive, lots of room for advancement. I may be in a better position than I was back home. It will take time, just like the sitch, but I am confident in my abilities.
I'm not in the financial stanglehold I found myself in while unemployed. Now, we were living within our means on her income alone, and nowhere near financial ruin. It's just being a provider again has fulfilled more self-worth and given ME options.
She is still letting most of the child rearing duties fall in my court. I feel like I'm burning the candle at both ends sometimes. But she has picked up some responsibility in the last few days. I'm just taking care of what "I" can control. If she continues on her current trend... great. If she goes back to ONLY thinking about herself... oh well. She has to live with that. Not me.
I have a "I can do this" mindset now. Regardless of W's choices.