Well he responded with that he is having a hard time with his emotions and the fact that he has to pay so much child support. He feels threatened because I am taking all of his money.

I texted him that we both have areas in which we are struggling. His is the money, mine is the fact that he betrayed me and his children by adultery and destroyed a loving family. I told him I can't fix what happened and I will continue to go after what is rightfully mine financially. I said regardless of our pain, we can still act like civil beings. I told him I try to focus on some of his good qualities rather than his lapse in moral judgement.

I told him he can choose to act anyway he wants, it is just that I will not be listening or tolerating his crap anymore.

I admitted to him that i take some responsibility in the demise of the marriage, but I don't think taking his pants down and inserting a bimbo is the way to handle it.


Me: 46 H:44
Together: 25 years
Married: 20 years
Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07
OW: EA began 2005
PA began end of 2006
3 children,20, 16, 6
ex asked for forgiveness
01/16/11