So we already have 1 rental property (her old condo) and I think in the current mortgage marketing getting a THIRD mortgage while we lease two homes in almost impossible. The best that I can tell her is that I am pretty sure that is not the house we are going to die in, so we won't be there forever. For the short term, next few years or so, there may me no real way out.
Oh come on, Crimson. What's more important in the long run? Losing thousands of dollars to the current housing market (which is recovering) or finding somewhere where you, your wife and S might be able to live together feeling safe and secure with a fresh start.
Money is replaceable, safety and security are not.
I may be saying this based on my own past choices, but my W said the identical thing about not feeling safe or secure that she could EVER move into our old house. I asked her if she thought remodeling the house might be enough or not. She said, well, yeah, maybe, hmmm I'd have to see. I thought about it and decided it was much more important that I look out for my W the way I hadnt before. We bought a new house. During the piecing period before we got the house, I would go to her apt to hang out and sleep ~50% of the time or so. She only set foot in our old house twice and for only about 10 minutes each time.
Me-53 W-49 D22,D18,D15 T-Since-12/2001 Married-9/2004 She Moved Out-5/28/2010 Piecing start-04/2011 Now-together Thread http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2079304
