Thanks guys. I did do some more back sliding just a few days ago when I found out W was on new anti-depressant/anti-anxiety drug (lexapro this time) which shocked me because she hated taking Zoloft (she was only off of it for a month) because of the side effects. W informed me that her anxiety was just too intense for her to deal with. So instead leaving it at that...I start inquiring what is the problem (you'd think I'd learn to leave well enough alone)...which of course starts an arguement and then following the pattern she gives me the same stereotypical WAW stuff again ("I want out", "I hate being here", "I don't like you", "There is nothing you can do", etc.,etc.). The day after our fight we go to counseling with a new therapist (thank God I scheduled an appointment ahead of time and no I don't think her anxiety issues flaring up a day before the appointment was a coincidence). He seems pretty good, very systematic and solutions oriented with a good success rate (about 95%). Except he wants us to work on "homework assignments" within the month. Both my W and myself are expected to go on dates and talk about nothing but ourselves (specifically if I set up the date to do an activity that I know my W loves I'm supposed to be completely focused on her). This sound a bit pushy to me...on the positive side he said if the initial assigment doesn't work he'll have us try other experiments. What do you guys think about this? I'm really thinking about paying the $$ for a DB coach...has anyone attempted just the one session or should I go for broke and sign up for the 3 session?
