I know you don't want regression therapy, but I just re-read what you said and I find the following very interesting:
Originally Posted By: Crazyville
I learned with my brother years ago that when you're a girl smaller than the guy that's picking on you (and that is what it is), you're not going to out-do him.
You can never take a look at the above and see what that might mean in your life. But the reality is, that is something that you have not let go... and I see how that is reflected in your M.
My D14 loves my D9 to death. So we aren't even talking M/F relationships here. D14 teases and taunts D9 and would never expect (and can't actually imagine) how that will affect D9 in the future, if D9 allows it to. I am constantly working her through that.
And further on the opposite spectrum, I had no male relatives my age, so between my sister and my female cousins, I was that "favourite" male relative that they could tease. Possibly taking out all their anger at being teased by other boys, including their brothers... In fact, even my aunts joined in on that fun...
It affected me for probably 15 years or so... and then I worked through it and truly let it go...
So as Harrier says, this isn't just a M/F thing, although the actually behaviours might be...
We tease and taunt to meet a need. It could be jealousy... it could be done in the name of love... but unless someone is actually doing something to intentionally break our leg or prevent us from having children... well... some people just don't think... but a lot of stuff is intended to be harmless fun...
Again, to repeat what Harrier said:
Originally Posted By: Harrier
I wouldn't want to be with my W if she thought I was a stupid simpleton who was too dumb to know what my child needs. This kind of cr@p (and it sounds like it) does way more harm to male-female relationships in the long run.
Maybe there's a better way to express that inner child. And there's also other ways to indicate that there are better ways for someone to express that inner child.
Everything is a two way street.
When disrespected, it appears so normal to retaliate with more disrespect. An ugly spiral.
