Realizing that I may be dealing with two people here, last night I had angry H who had been drinking. This morning I had reasonable, level headed H who wants to discuss finances and non R things calmly rationally like adults starting tonight.
Autumn,
When these "two people" become ONE person, for a demonstrable period of time (I would submit "six months" as a reasonable starting point), then I think you could feel safe opening back up to him emotionally, financially and legally.
Until HE gets him and shows that he can do that, I think it's time for Mamabear to protect her cubs.
