He is the KING of not talking about anything. For our whole marriage I have pretty much gotten just the surface of him. He just doesn't share his deepest thoughts... ever! For the most part he has always just agreed with what I say. And through this separation I have forced so much out of him that I never knew. It is quite astonishing.
I'm married to someone very similar. We've now been separated a year and it continues. He has not initiated contact with me but for a few times. No relationship talk at all, no talk of divorce.
This is the gift of time to become the you you've always wanted to be. If H notices and likes it great, if not you have something valuable-YOU.
Lose the anger, (if it's there) and get into the mindset that it's over and go live your life.
Maybe Cadet can point you to his pursuer/distancer information.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
