Divorce....with a side of crazy...

[imthemom]

I actually had been reading up on and checking into the "collaberative" process...and we actually were trying to go that rought but he was so difficult from the very beginning that it just fell apart. Our only sticking point is support to me..he has refused to agree to anything that the state mandated and that was after several sit downs with my L and running up my bill and saying everything sounded great and then refusing to sign off on it. And after I made an offer considerably lower then what was called for by the state. He finally went and got his own L without even telling me and it has deteriorated since then. And I have felt like since there are now 2 lawyers it has gotten very advsersarial, something I never saw comeing. Now I feel like this person that I thought cared about me for 19 yrs is basically attacking and beating me down...and then adding a litle kick while Im there....

unfortunetly Ive had to block him from texting. He gets pretty brave when theres no face to face and says mean and nasty things. Hes to much of a coward to say it on the phone so I havent had to do anything there...and if he needs to call about our S15 he can...but doesnt.

Hes so wrapped up in his ow that he doesnt have time for anything else but beating me down. Hes a "recovering" alcoholic and as far as I can tell is in full blown dry drunk mode...part of me is wishing for the crash and burn...the other part is dreading it.

I was hopeing to be done with it by our 6 month waiting period was over (May 7) That is looking like its not going to happen since our first court date isnt until May 2nd. Im still hopeing that he may back off and try to come to some kind of agreement before the court date, My son and I are living hand to mouth int he mean time and its been hard getting by. Dont really have a very high opinion of him right now...and I think that may be permanent...

has anyone been threw such an ugly D and had things improve after it was settled?