You sound like you are doing much better. Nothing wrong with not talking to your W at all. You are essentially giving her space in fact you are not alone I have not spoken to my W at all today. The best thing you can do is to detach from her.
M 44 W 43 S 23 S 15 INILWY 9/11 Divorce Mediation started 3/13 June 30 the day W is moving out