WAW close to moving out, please help

[AlwaysTrying]

cdavis, you're on the right track. So much of what you are saying is so familiar it made me want to cry.

If I had come here early into my situation, we would have reconciled a few times over, but I did the exactly wrong thing on several occasions and I face a hard lonely road back.

Cadet is right on. Your W is giving you the gift of time. Look past her words and what she is allowing with her actions. Put DR into effect. But give your W a lot of space while you get a handle on this.

You need to be taking a closer look at yourself and how you contributed to this breakdown. All that anger about how she is going to ruin your kids lives - I feel it, too. But it doesn't help anyone. It's pressure for your wife and it pushes her away.

Your wife doesn't want to be married to you any more. You can't change her to fix that. You have to focus on yourself.