I chose "Collaberative Divorce" as I felt I had a better chance of coming out with a fairer settlement with mediation and negotiations. Each of us had a lawyer but their job was to help us reach a fair settlement. There were meetings and discussions. That was emotionally difficult for me but it was MUCH cheaper to do it this way and I was pleased to be able to negotiate my own agreement - it was me who would have to live with it.
One of the biggest parts of it all is gathering the info - especially all the financial stuff. But not that much different than preparing your finances for taxes. Best to get as much of it done as soon as you can.
The divorce itself was not a real biggie. It really was just a rubber stamp. I did not even attend as my mother passed away that week.
Antlers - divorce [censored] - we can all agree on that - especially when we are not the party seeking it and especially when there is infidelity involved. But it is not fair to state that the court system is totally adversarial. That may have been your experience but it is not true in all situations. No point in further stressing out someone who is already dreading going there.
