Living in the trenches....Thread #5

[25yearsmlc]

Then it's time you stop apologizing my friend. Tell her that she's you understand that she is going through things and you are there and always have been there for support if she needs it. However, you will not continue to be blamed or be the outlet for her frustrations. Tell you you understand that she doesn't like to talk, but you are there for her if she needs it.

Then walk away. Think Steve McQueen cool. Sometimes you need to be assertive to tell her what you will not take any longer.

DITTO THIS^^^^.....

and don't let her lump you in w/anyone who touched her inappropriately.

And btw, is there EVER going to be a statute of limitations on how long she'll hold HER perceived slights/your "sins/mistakes" over your head?

She is making NO effort to become more loving or happy. She's lousy to be around for you AND the kids. What is she bringing to the table? I don't see it.

She is stuck wallowing in her victimhood and dragging you down with her.

Stop circling the drain. You deserve better. So do your kids.

I think you are a man only a fool would leave, but your w may well be a fool.


YOU must change this situation. (3 years...She will not change this or do the right thing b/c she would have by now...its up to YOU).