It's not disempowering at all. It is a boundary that she draws. She doesn't have to tell him to leave, it's merely a suggestion.
But let's be honest here. If your spouse told you that they had feelings for someone they worked for, enough to actually make them want to leave their marriage (wife and kid), would you want them to continue to work with that other person? Time and time again I've seen it on here. It's like a ticking time bomb.
Now he may be able to resist, which is fine. But there's always that temptation there. And as everyone knows, it's extremely difficult to R when the other person is still in the picture.
None of this goes contrary to DB. You continue to be the best person you are and likewise, the WAS also now has the incentive to be the best person they are. This includes respecting the insecurities of the other person. None of this changes overnight.
It's a matter of respect.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
