[quote=purgatory]Glad everyone is learning new things: me fixing water heaters and learning to find other's threads!
25, I'll go look at my other thread for your post
H just dropped a mini bomb, kinda. He asked me if he could have primary custody of the kids when he gets back from AFG. He said its only fair, I deserve it, he'll want to reconnect with them.... I wanted to cry. STOP ...I can't even finish reading this before saying something. WHO CARES WHAT IS "FAIR" TO HIM??? He will deserve full custody? Um, what about THEM and what they deserve?
And why are YOU getting punished for taking care of them all this time b/c of HIS career choice, leaving ALL the care to you for a solid year-
only to take it back at a time of his choosing, like it is HIS to give and take?
NEWSFLASH- The stability & needs of the children determine this,
NOT your h's comfort level or convenience OR sense of entitlement.
He'll be a virtual stranger to them upon return and after he has disaapeared from their lives for a year,
& when he comes back he wants their mother, THEIR primary caregiver to fade to something less b/c of what HE deserves and wants? Wow...sorry Purg but atm all I can say is
Screw that.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
