ITM, I'm very similar. I think you need to follow your instincts. I also think you are totally right that your S needs your attention. My kids need more of mine...I'm struggling to manage three kids and try to get my head back on straight at work.

I've been dabbling in the dating scene and I can tell I'm not ready for anything serious.

I had contact again with H yesterday (he's coming back here this weekend) and I'm miserable today. I'm dreading seeing him and dealing with him. I guess we each reach a point where we can't go on.


M 44, H 46
D11, D9, D5
Married 12 years
PA confirmed 9/2011
I filed 3/2012
H moved out 7/2012