THANK YOU! I have spent the last couple of hrs. reading thru your last couple of threads. Our similarities are uncanny... Specially in OUR feelings. Every word and doubt and fear you describe I have felt. It is nice to see that I am not going crazy...
Originally Posted By: NLW
The one positive I've found from the last month is that it's SO much easier for me to detach now.
H has shown zero care for me, and that makes it easier to realise that there is no point me being personally invested in his emotional crisis at the moment.
My focus is now on me and my kids.
I also agree that detachment should be easier. I look at my H and really just want him to leave me alone. I wished I didn't have to see him or talk to him. I know that is essential for my well-being and recovery. Unfortunately, that is an impossibility in my sitch, with such young children.
But I can definitely put up more boundaries and need to be better at enforcing them. You got some good advice on that in your thread and I will follow it.
Send him to my lawyer...
Thank you again. I will visit your thread as well and keep following your sitch closely. I know we will find the strength to see this through.
Me & H: 44 D7, D6, S3 Together: 20y, M: 17y EA: 11/13/10, Sep: 12/23/10 EA becomes PA: Spring 2011 H filed for D: 09/06/12 D Negotiating began 2/15 OW seemingly gone on 3/15 Still negotiating D
