25 - As always, THANK YOU! Your support and understanding has been unreal. Both when I've needed 2x4s and when I have needed more empathy.
And of course, you bring a lot of wisdom and common sense.
Originally Posted By: 25yearsmlc
BTW If you were so crazy angry and "abusive," WHY DID HE LEAVE HIS CHILDREN WITH YOU???)
It's funny that you mention this. H's older brother said the same thing to me the other day. He said that even though H is his little brother and he adores him, what he is doing is not acceptable. He is an adult with responsibilities, not a teenager. My BIL has told me repeatedly that he will not let my H hurt me or the kids and will look out for our best interest. He also called my dad and my sister when H first left to tell them the same. I am extremely lucky to have married into a great, loving family and am sad to see how all this has affected them.
Originally Posted By: 25yearsmlc
If your h is ever to see the light it will ONLY be AFTER he accomplishes his "Mission" which he is pursuing, "damned the consequences" in a terrible effort to prove himself "right"...after all, he and OW MUST be happy or...or all this pain will have been for nothing and will be on him...
I totally agree with you here. I realize this situation will need to run its course and if my H and I will ever get back together, it will be under new premises. No rebuilding left here... We'd need to build anew... But I cannot worry about that now. I have to get out of this yucky, dark place and finalize this ASAP or I will lose my mind.
Thank you again.
BTW, I love the serenity prayer. I have a copy in my wallet and read it daily. Now all I need to do is put it in practice...
Me & H: 44 D7, D6, S3 Together: 20y, M: 17y EA: 11/13/10, Sep: 12/23/10 EA becomes PA: Spring 2011 H filed for D: 09/06/12 D Negotiating began 2/15 OW seemingly gone on 3/15 Still negotiating D
