Are you seeing anyone for yourself to deal with his A last year? I'm not saying your feelings aren't valid but the physical abuse is startling. Whether or not he deserves it, it is not an appropriate response. You could have put something at risk if he took it differently. (sorry to sound lecturing because I know this is tough).
Getting drunk...same thing, IMO. If you aren't seeing a therapist, I'd consider it.
There is a lot of anger -that's justified, but in the end the anger will not serve your M or your D any good. Good luck.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
