So are you afraid that if you take these actions and they don't work than you will somehow have failed? Or that you will find out something that you don't like? For instance if h doesn't respond positively to your DB attemps than you might conclude that he isn't interested in R? Maybe you are not ready to do these things and need to be in a wait and see pattern for a little longer?
Mimi
I just don't know anymore. I'm really trying to NOT look for a reaction from him. Doesn't work every time, and if I do get an unfavorable one, it'll sting, but most of the time I can move on rather quickly.
Sometimes I feel like HE should be the one doing all this. Granted we both are responsible for the breakdown in our M. But I'm not the one who stepped out. "I" was trying to fix it the best way I knew how. So there's definitely some anger there, and feeling like I shouldn't have to do anything. (Wrong way of thinking, I know)
I've been in a holding pattern for a couple of months with no real movement, so I do need to do something. Honestly, he doesn't really respond negatively to me a lot. Which is confusing. I always think that means he's plotting his escape. LOL
Since he's feeling down about his classmate, I thought about treating him to dinner (probably takeout as I doubt he'll agree to go anywhere together). I THOUGHT about doing a picnic, but that might be too much for right now.
