How exactly to do mean that he was "creative" with OW?
How do you feel she "excited" him?
Good on working on your stuff.
What do you do "for the marriage"?
If you were not married, would you still be the stable one? Still working? If so, then you are doing that for you, not for the M and not for him. He just happens to be the benefactor because your (and his) stability are not dependent on him.
That does not make him not working, wrong. No matter how much you might want him to contribute. If he was not with you, he would have to find another way to get a roof over his head and food in his belly. And that may or may not require him to find someone else or get "a real job" himself. He may not have a huge drive for money. Not everyone does. Did you marry him that way?
In societies genderless workforce, what do you resent that he is not working?
