That said, I did email him that we arrived and are in Berlin. Hesitated to do that, but we are half way around the world and it seemed the right thing to do. He is picking us up on Sunday too.
This is a case in point -- it was the right thing to do in every circumstance except this one. If I were a betting man I'd put some money on the fact that he didn't respond. Even if he did, that was an overture that you made.
That is precisely when you have to fight, when some little act of pursuit or contact "feels like the right thing to do". Stop yourself, question why you're doing it and what you expect. Keep yourself honest -- it's easy to say to yourself "it's ok this time because of the circumstance". Usually it isn't. If H was worried about your safe arrival, let him email you. If he complains that you didn't let him know about your arrival, ignore him unless you had previously agreed to let him know at his request.
Right now, keeping him up to date is no longer your responsibility unless the kids are sick or in trouble. He is responsible for getting updates from you.
If you try this approach and are faithful to it, he will reach out. You might have to wait 8x longer than you think, but he will reach out.
At that point, continue to let him lead. Do not grab the wheel again and start driving.
Sorry to pick on you over a nit given how you're feeling -- unfortunately when people post about their pursuing they usually leave a lot out.
Accuray
Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
