Hi Mimi - you seem like a very cool person. Your H is a fool! I hope that all the space you're giving him allows him to deal with his difficulties and come back. It sounds like he's obsessed with your diagnosis, like he can't see past it to the whole you.
Keep your PMA going, hang in there!
Ad, thank you so much. This made me feel a lot better today. You are right about h and my diagnosis. He still cries about and it was over 3 years ago. I don't cry about it anymore. He has actually said that the reason he "no longer feels for me things that he should" -- meaning sexual intimacy -- is because he can't get past seeing me as a sick, fragile person and can't get past the scar on my breast (which, objectively, looks great for such a scar). We are dealing with this in therapy. The therapist is exploring why my h has "neutered" me. I would like to know if he can get past it, because otherwise our relationship will be a best friends type of thing. Time will tell.
Mimi
M:37; H:37; M:10 years;T:13 years;no kids. Bomb ("I love you, but don't feel things for you I should":1/08/12 Separated (H living with various friends:1/18/12 Separated (H rented his own apartment:3/4/12
