Crimbo - you continue to grow and it is very obvious from your posts that you have achieved so much by being brutally honest with yourself. The greatest thing I see in you is your newfound ability to live in the moment.
Think of how you just changed a pattern that had been ingrained in you your entire life, one that threatened your family. Think of how hard that is to do, and then it makes it easier to see how you W is struggling with her own questions, the depth of them.
Your journey is very inspirational and many should look to it as a success story.